Does complaining and blaming really accomplish anything? This article shows a much more profitable alternative.
Who Is To Blame?
We all experience setbacks, obstacles and disappointments. It’s part of life. But some people have a habit of saying that their setbacks, obstacles and disappointments are always someone else else’s fault. They love to sit around and complain.
Have you ever considered that everything you do expends your energy? Why waste precious energy on complaining? What does that accomplish, besides maybe getting someone to feel sorry for you?
When someone feels sorry for you, it doesn’t help you, does it? You might take some comfort knowing that someone cares about you, but how does that really help your situation? It would be much more profitable for someone to help you arrive at solutions, don’t you think?
When I am going through a difficult time, the last thing I want is for someone to feel sorry for me, and say something like, “Oh, that’s just terrible; I’m so sorry you are going through that.” I would much rather they suggest that we pray together, and then work on a solution.
Who You Gonna Blame?
And then of course, there’s the blame game. After a good round of complaining, one realizes that there must be someone at fault. Who is it?
Take your pick.
You can blame the government, the economy, your boss, your parents or even your neighbor. After all, someone has to be responsible for your misery, right? But, there you go, expending more of your precious energy on something that produces nothing but more misery.
Today, there are lots of people who are caught up in complaining and blaming. I in no way mean to belittle their situations or conditions. Many face real difficulties. And, it may be true that some of the things they face are due to circumstances that are outside of their control.
However, one can never overcome the difficulties they face by spending their time complaining and blaming. Focusing on the problems will never bring a solution. But for many, it is much easier to complain and blame than to take responsibility and find a solution.
It is sad that so many people will not take charge of their own lives. They wait for governments to change or for the economy to improve. They wait and wait, and complain and blame.
God gave us all a brain so that we could think, learn and grow. You can ask for God’s help and He will guide you and bring you to your desired haven. But He will not just take over your life while you sit on the couch waiting for it to magically happen.
Your life can change, dramatically, once you decide that it is in your power to do so. God gave all of us free will to make our own decisions. A person can pray all day long for things to improve, but if they don’t take some action, they will not see any results.
It’s A Lot Easier For People Who Have No Problems, Right?
Some people are under the impression that positive people have no problems and that is why they are so positive. But think about it for a minute. Being positive and solution oriented is a choice, isn’t it? Being negative and complaining, is also a choice, right?
The Bible says that out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. In other words, positive people have learned to think the right thoughts, to say the right words, so that they can get the right results.
Some people choose to rationalize that the reason they complain is because things are not going well. If things were just going well, then they too could be positive. It does not happen that way. One must change their thinking first, then change what they say, and then take action while looking for and seeking a solution.
And, for those who are simply, “waiting on God” to do something, He already has. He gave His Son so that we could become His dear children, with His spirit within us. He has given us His exceeding great and precious promises that we can choose to believe.
Your Mind Can’t Do It
How can one think and dwell on how lousy their situation is and at the same time think and dwell on the promises of God? You cannot think two opposites. Try it. Picture in your mind a car going really fast and really slow. That’s the point.
Choose your thoughts very carefully. The Bible says to guard your heart with all diligence, for out of it (your heart), are the issues of life (your life). We all have a choice in the thoughts we entertain.
God is a very present help in time of need; pray and ask for His help. Instead of complaining and blaming, turn your focus and energy to pursuing the solutions that you need for your life. Get up, look up, and take some action.
Mike Verdicchio
2011
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