Sleep On It

Yesterday I posted Last week’s article in The pep Letter, called, “How To Face Another Day.”  If you’re not a subscriber to the free Pep Letter, then you can see a sample of what you get in your email once a week.

This morning I wanted to post a followup to that article.  It’s called, “Sleep On It,”  and it really presents some great information about our subconcious.

Isn’t amazing the way God created us!

The information in both of these articles is simple and practical.  It can change your life.

Sleep On It

What thoughts do you think before you go to sleep?  Does it really matter?  Actually, what you think about before you drift off into dream land could be very beneficial and profitable to your life.

While your conscious mind takes a much needed break as you sleep, your subconscious mind actually stays very active. Because of this, the thoughts that you think about shortly before you fall asleep are vitally important.

Junk Before Bed?

Many people end their day by watching the news, which is usually negative and often depressing. When they go to sleep after pouring all that junk into their minds, they are basically saying, “Okay subconscious mind, work on all that stuff.”  And then people wonder why they wake up depressed, negative, and with no ambition for the new day ahead?

Your subconscious mind is at work day and night, including throughout your slumber. Maybe you have heard someone say, “I’m going to sleep on it?”  I remember watching a movie and when faced with a problem, the main character said, “I’ll sort it out in the morning.”  Many times after, “sleeping on it,” a person wakes up with a solution, or at least, a new direction in which to proceed.

A Solution

Perhaps you have heard the story about the man who had diligently worked for many, many hours towards a solution to a problem, yet still knew that there was something missing. He went to sleep, still trying to grasp that missing piece. His thoughts before he fell asleep were focused on unearthing the solution.

He said the next morning he suddenly woke up feeling “the greatest excitement.”  In a short amount of time thereafter, Albert Einstein wrote his first draft of a new article – a full thirty pages. It was the start to his theory of relativity.

Time To Get Up

There are a lot of people who wake up right before their alarm goes off. Does that happen to you?  Is it just a habit, or, before falling asleep, do you consciously think about what time you want to get up?  I think it is the latter.

Personally, the only time I use an alarm clock is when I need to get up much earlier than usual.  However, every time I set the alarm clock, it seems like I still wake up before it goes off.  I really believe that is because before falling asleep, I am very aware that I need to get up earlier.  I am very conscious of setting the alarm for a specific time.  And then, the next morning, my subconscious mind steps in, telling me it is 4:30.

Methods

There are some who suggest deliberately putting specific information into your mind before you fall asleep.  Having noted many examples of people going to sleep with a problem or dilemma, and then waking up with a solution, they suggest doing it on purpose, intentionally.

There are many programs that suggest doing your affirmations right before you go to sleep.  Some recommend reviewing your goals at that time. The Bible talks about not going to sleep angry.  Why?  Because our God designed the brain, and He knows that anger, resentment and bitterness is not something you want to give your subconscious to work on while you sleep.

So before you fall asleep, take note of your emotions.  If you are angry, stop for a few minutes and figure out why.  Our emotions are simply indicators of the thoughts in our hearts and minds.  If you need to forgive someone, then do it before you go to sleep and release that anger from your mind.

Don’t Fall Asleep In A Bad Mood

The point is, don’t allow yourself to fall asleep in a doubtful mood, or in a depressed mood, or in an angry mood.  If you fall asleep in a negative mood, you are impeding the work that your subconscious mind could be doing for you while you sleep.  Deal with the cause of the emotions.  Release the anger and replace it with forgiveness.  Release the depressed feeling with anticipation of God’s help in your life.  Release the doubt and replace it with confidence that God has a solution for you.

Once you release the negative emotions and replace them with something you do want to see in your life, then, deliberately give you subconscious mind something to work on.  Whether it is your affirmations, or goals, or something you are working to solve, be specific and deliberate about your thoughts right before you fall asleep.  Your subconscious mind is going to be working all night on something anyway, so why not give it something profitable?

Successful people develop successful habits; it doesn’t just happen automatically.  You can take charge of your life by doing many little, seemingly insignificant things.  However, those “little” things will reap enormously profitable dividends in your life.

So have a sweet, peaceful, and productive sleep!

Michael A. Verdicchio
2010

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How To Face Another Day

Last week’s article in The pep Letter was called, “How To Face Another Day.”  I have received a number of positive responses to that article.  So, I have decided to post it here this morning.

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By the way, I am going to post a followup to this article, tomorrow, here on the blog.  It will be called, “Sleep On It.”  The information in both of these articles gives you some very simple and practical keys to help you live your life to the fullest.

Applying the information in these two articles can be life changing.

How To Face Another Day

Do you wake up every morning ready to take on the world?  Do you jump out of bed enthused and motivated?  Are you genuinely excited at the start of each brand new day?

Most people would answer all three of those questions with a great big emphatic, “No.”  Some people wake up only to realize that nothing in their life has changed and they must now get up and try to face another day.  At best they try to just get through another day.

What’s The Answer?

Some say that the answer is to start each new day with positive thoughts.  But, again, when waking up to the “same old, same old,” it’s difficult to bounce out bed enthusiastic about a new day.  The real secret is what you do before you go to sleep.

At the end of a day your mind is full of many things that happened throughout the day; the pleasant things and the not so pleasant.  And for lots of people the unpleasant outweighs the pleasant.  But before you go to sleep, there are things you can do that will help you greatly in starting your next new day.

This is not a magic formula.  It is simply a way to deal with your own mind.  Countless motivation and self help books will relate similar suggestions.  But it is still up to you to decide what you do with your own mind.  Changes in our lives begin with changes in our own thinking.

Get Rid Of The “Negs”

First, get rid of any and all negative emotions.  Never go to sleep with negative emotions bothering you.  It adversely affects you mentally and physically, and when you wake up, negative emotions will still be present.

Let them go.  As you undress before getting into bed, also remove any anger, bitterness, and resentment you may be feeling.  Toss them to the side; do not take them to bed with you.

If you’re having a problem tossing them off, then wait before you climb into bed.  Sit down and address those emotions.  Make a decision that you are not taking them to bed.  Make a conscious effort to put them aside.

Forgive

Then as you fluff up your pillow (or whatever you do right before you get into bed) forgive anyone who hurt you during the day; genuinely forgive them, hold no grudge or desire for retaliation.  Wipe it all away.  Ask God to forgive you where you fell short during the day and accept His forgiveness.  And, make sure that you forgive yourself, too.

Never go to sleep with condemnation and sin consciousness.  If you do, you will wake up in the morning feeling lousy about yourself.  Ask for God’s forgiveness, knowing that He will forgive you.  Accept His forgiveness and forgive yourself.  Now you are ready to get into your bed.

As you climb into bed and get comfortable, remind yourself of the blessings that God has bestowed on you, personally.  If things in your life are really bad, then start by thanking Him for being alive; for having a bed to sleep in.  If you have to get back to basics, then do it.  Express your gratitude to God for His blessings.

Gratitude For His Love

Take a few moments to think about some of the things that God has done for you in the past.  Remind yourself that His love for you has not changed.  Remind yourself that His power and desire to bless you have not changed either.

As you begin to relax, talk to God and tell Him the desires of your heart.  Ask Him to open doors for you and to bring to you the things that you need.  Ask Him to show you solutions.  Fall asleep with your trust in God to provide all that you need.

Try this out for a week.  You will be amazed at how different your attitude is when you wake up.  And when you do wake up, pick up right where you left off.  Face the new day with trust in God to provide for you today, expectations of Him showing you solutions, and, anticipation of open doors that will bring you the desires of your heart.

God gave us all free will; we decide what we are going to think about. The thoughts we think will determine the direction our lives will proceed.  We can decide the thoughts we think so that we are genuinely excited at the start of each brand new day.

Michael A. Verdicchio
2010

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God, Please Fix It

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Have you ever found yourself in a big mess?

I believe in a miracle working God. Do you?  He has and continues to perform miracles.  But aren’t we supposed to take some responsibility for our own actions.

In this short podcast (3:28 ) discover what you should do when you find yourself in a mess.

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What’s Love Got To Do With It?

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This podcast is not about Tina Turner’s hit song, “What’s Love Got To Do With It?” or the movie about her life with the same name.

This short podcast (4:05) is about God’s love.  Find out how much God really loves you.

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Are You Blogging?

I get asked on a regular basis about blogging or about how to set up a blog.

There is some really good free information out there for those just getting started as well as for those who want to earn some money with their blog.

For those who are interested in making money with their blog, I always give them this link to Income Blogging Guide In fact I just sent that link to a friend last week.

I know, Joel, one of the authors of this free Income Blogging Guide.  I’ve been blogging here at Confidence And Joy for a little over a year.  I owe a great deal of gratitude to Joel for all his personal help with site.  You are looking at some of his handy work.

Joel is very blog savvy and this guide is a great tool, not only for those who want to earn some extra money with their blog, but also for those who are just getting started in the blogging arena.

Particularly helpful is their step-by-step guide, with images, of  ‘must-have’ plugin that you need to install on your blog, plus the necessary tweaks for those plugins.

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What In The World Is Going On?

Out Of Control?

Do you get the idea that some people think that the Federal government here in the United States is out of control?  Now, whether you think they are out of control or not, basically everything that they do is outside of your control.

Yes you can vote in an election year, and you can write to your representative.  But when they are in office, the deeds they do are outside of your control.

When you stop and think about it, there are a lot of things that are outside of our control; the weather, oil spills, people’s actions, the stock market, etc.  The current economic situation in our country, and, around the world, is outside of our control.  But we certainly do feel and experience the effects, don’t we?

What’s Your Response?

I think what is important is how you respond to the things going on around you and especially the things that are directly affecting you.  Many people are reacting with anger and disappointment over things that are outside of their control.

Have you noticed that reacting and thinking that way simply leaves you frustrated, negative, and depressed?  All of the energy that you could be using to look for personal solutions is being wasted on something that never helps or solves anything, because it is outside of your control.

It’s Not Fair!

You can say, “This isn’t fair; that’s not right; those are wrong decisions that will bring serious consequences down the road.”   You can say anything you want to say.  But there will always be situations outside of your control.

So then why not put your energy and focus on what you do have control over. You! I can’t control your thoughts and you can’t control mine.  Only you can control your own thoughts.  Only you can decide what your mindset is going to be.

God Has Not Changed

And here’s some “good news.” God is not, and never will be out of business, regardless of the times that we live in,  There are many places that you can read in the Bible of God providing His protection and help in some of the most unpleasant of times.  God has not changed in His desire to help, nor has He lost any of His power.

The choice is always ours.  We can choose to focus on everything that we think is going wrong.  We can allow the circumstances to make us angry, frustrated and afraid.  Or, we can choose to focus on God and His promises.  We can look to Him for His help, guidance, and, personal direction for our lives.

I choose the later, how about you?

Michael A. Verdicchio
2010

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A Test From God?

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Yesterday was Father’s Day and I was thinking about how often the blame for bad things gets put on our heavenly Father.

People talk about God testing them, or God having a reason for this and for that.  It all adds up to blaming God.

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Today Is Father’s Day

Happy Father’s Day!

I wanted to wish all the Dad’s  a very Happy Father’s Day.  I love being a dad; I love my kids; and, I think it’s real special being a dad, for a million reasons.

Did you know that this year is the centennial celebration of Father’s Day?  100 years of recognizing dear ‘ol dad.

Father’s Day is a celebration inaugurated in the early twentieth century to complement Mother’s Day in celebrating fatherhood and male parenting. It is also celebrated to honor and commemorate our forefathers.

Father’s Day is celebrated on a variety of dates worldwide and typically involves gift-giving, special dinners to fathers, and family-oriented activities.

100 Years Ago

The first observance of Father’s Day is believed to have been held on June 19, 1910 through the efforts of Sonora Smart Dodd of Spokane, Washington. After listening to a church sermon at Spokane’s Central Methodist Episcopal Church in 1909 about the newly recognized Mother’s Day, Dodd felt strongly that fatherhood needed recognition, as well.

She wanted a celebration that honored fathers like her own father, William Smart, a Civil War veteran who was left to raise his family alone when his wife died giving birth to their sixth child when Sonora was 16 years old.

The following year with the assistance of Reverend Dr. Conrad Bluhm, her pastor at Old Centenary Presbyterian Church (now Knox Presbyterian Church), Sonora took the idea to the Spokane YMCA. The Spokane YMCA, along with the Ministerial Alliance, endorsed Dodd’s idea and helped it spread by celebrating the first Father’s Day in 1910.

Red Roses And White Roses

Sonora suggested her father’s birthday, June 5th, be established as the day to honor all Father’s. However, the pastors wanted more time to prepare, so on June 19, 1910, young members of the YMCA went to church wearing roses: a red rose to honor a living father, and a white rose to honor a deceased one.

It took many years to make the holiday official. In spite of support from the YWCA, and churches, Father’s Day ran the risk of disappearing from the calendar. Where Mother’s Day was met with enthusiasm, Father’s Day was often met with laughter. The holiday was gathering attention slowly, but for the wrong reasons.

It was the target of much satire, parody and derision, including jokes from the local newspaper Spokesman-Review. Many people saw it as the first step in filling the calendar with mindless promotions.

The US Congress Was Not Helpful

A bill to accord national recognition of the holiday was introduced in Congress in 1913. In 1916, President Woodrow Wilson went to Spokane to speak in a Father’s Day celebration and wanted to make it official, but Congress resisted, fearing that it would become commercialized.

President Calvin Coolidge recommended in 1924 that the day be observed by the nation, but stopped short of issuing a national proclamation. Two earlier attempts to formally recognize the holiday had been defeated by Congress.

In 1957, Maine Senator Margaret Chase Smith wrote a proposal accusing Congress of ignoring fathers for 40 years while honoring mothers, thus “singling out just one of our two parents.” In 1966, President Lyndon Johnson issued the first presidential proclamation honoring fathers, designating the third Sunday in June as Father’s Day.

Congress finally got on boaad six years later; the day was made a permanent national holiday when President Richard Nixon signed it into law in 1972.

This year, 2010, is the Father’s Day Centennial. Spokane Washington has events scheduled all month long. Celebration occurs in Spokane with a month of events commemorating the day.

Mike

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Three Keys To Prosperity

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In these days of economic uncertainty, why in the world am I talking about prosperity?  Shouldn’t the focus be on surviving this economic fiasco?  Maybe.  And then again, maybe not.

God’s promises of prosperity are still true.

In this short podcast (9:51) discover three basic and simple keys to prosperity.  But, if you think that God’s will is for you to just survive and get by, then you don’t need to hear this.

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Why Give?

I read the following article on line about a year ago. It seems that they have done some research on this great principle of “giving.”  I thought you might enjoy it.

The Bible counsels misers that it’s better to give than to receive. Science agrees. People who made gifts to others or to charities reported they were happier than folks who didn’t share, according to a report in Friday’s issue of the journal Science.

While previous studies have shown that having more money can increase happiness, the researchers at the University of British Columbia and Harvard University wondered if the way people spent their money made any difference.

Turns out, it does.

Not Surprised

Lead researcher Elizabeth W. Dunn, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of British Columbia, said she wasn’t surprised that doing something for others made people happy.

But she was struck by how big the effect was and that how people spent money was more important than how much money they had.

“This work suggests that even making small alterations in how we spend money on a daily basis can make a difference in happiness,” Dunn said in a telephone interview.

“That doesn’t mean go get a high paying job so you can spend tons of money on others. The message is, given what you have, how can you make little alterations to do something for others,” she said.

And, she added, “there’s nothing special about money,” giving can involve time or special skills to help other people.

No Surprises Here Either

The report didn’t surprise Sue Citro, senior digital membership manager for the Nature Conservancy:

“We do hear from our members and our supporters that the do get a real feeling of satisfaction from knowing their giving is doing good,” she said.

Andrea Koslow, director of advertising at the American Red Cross, said: “The act of helping has its own profound effect.”

“People need a humanitarian outlet … feeling that they make a difference … that’s very motivating,” Koslow said.

The good feeling associated with giving is why workplace charity opportunities can engage employees and lift morale, added Kristine Templin, director of corporate partnerships at the American Red Cross.

The Research

The researchers started by asking a sample of 632 Americans, 55 percent of whom were women, to rate their happiness on a scale of 1 to 5, the higher the number the happier.

Then they asked the participants to report their annual income and estimate how much they spent on paying bills, buying gifts for themselves, buying gifts for others and giving to charity.

The first two were considered personal spending and averaged $1,714-a-month, the second two were termed “prosocial” spending and averaged $146-a-month.

“Personal spending was unrelated to happiness,” said the researchers. “But higher prosocial spending was associated with significantly greater happiness,” they found.

Not content with that, they then studied 16 employees of a company in Boston, asking about their happiness one month before and six to eight weeks after each received a profit-sharing bonus from their employer.

In the second interview they also asked about personal and prosocial spending and once again those who spent more on others were happier.

“The manner in which they spent that bonus was a more important predictor of their happiness than the amount of the bonus itself,” the researchers found.

And In Canada

Finally, 46 Canadian students were asked to rate their happiness and then each was given a random envelope containing money, ranging from $5 to $20. Some were instructed to spend it on themselves, others were told to buy a gift for someone else.

At 5 p.m. that day, they were called together again and asked to rate their happiness.

The amount of money had no impact on happiness, but those assigned to buy something for another person reported greater happiness than those told to get something for themselves, the researchers said.

A separate study published in 2006 in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences found that the same parts of the brain that produce the good feeling when a person receives a reward also respond when they give to someone else.

Indeed, researchers led by Jordan Grafman at the National Institutes of Health found the reward areas were more active when giving a gift than when receiving one.

It’s an interesting article, don’t you think?

If you’re a fan of the Bible then you know that God set up something very wonderful called, The Law of Giving and Receiving.

II Corinthians 9:6-11:
But this I say, He which sows sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which sows bountifully shall reap also bountifully.

Every man according as he purposes in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loves a cheerful giver.

And God is able to make all grace abound toward you; that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound to every good work:

As it is written, He has dispersed abroad; he has given to the poor: his righteousness remains for ever.

Luke 6:38:
Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.

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