Bewailing Virginity

by Michael Verdicchio on September 27, 2010 Print this article

From the Category, “The Eastern Eye”

[The Bible is an “Eastern” book. It was written many years ago in the “East” which today we refer to as “The Middle East.”  As such, there are many customs and idioms that are not familiar to the “Western” mind.]

In understanding the Scriptures it is important for us to understand the culture, but it doesn’t mean that we should necessarily follow that culture. Rather, it is in the understanding of the Eastern culture that we gain light and understanding about many things in the Bible.

There is a section in the book of Judges where understanding the culture sheds light and understanding.  It is the record of Jepthtah making a vow unto the Lord.  He promised to give in service the first to come out of his house if God would help him win a battle.

The Ammonites and Israel were at war.  Before Jepthtah went to battle, he made a vow to God.  He said to God, “If you give me victory, when I come back victorious, the first who comes to meet me, I will give unto You as a burnt offering,” meaning give them to God for service to God for the rest of their life.

God granted Jepthtah the victory.  But it was his only child, his daughter, who came first, rejoicing to meet her dad, with instruments of music.  Seeing her, he immediately “rent his clothes.”

Rent His Clothes

This expression in the Bible means to tear one’s mantle. It doesn’t mean that they ripped or tore their other clothing. They ripped or tore their mantle, as an outward sign of either anger or sorrow.  In this case, it was to indicate sorrow. sorrow.

So, because it was his daughter who first met him, he rent his mantle.  He then told his daughter that he had opened his mouth unto God and could not go back on what he told God.  His daughter understood what he meant.  She asked him if she could first go and “bewail her virginity.”

Bewail Her Virginity

A woman who wants to give herself in service to God must be a virgin.  The expression “bewail her virginity” means that she would spend two months in preparation before joining herself to the Temple.  She would go with her close friends to see relatives and other acquaintances, and say her goodbyes.

She would also spend time with those close companions in prayer, sanctifying and consecrating herself in preparation for leaving that life behind, and coming to the Temple to give her life in service to God.  This she would do for two months.

The “bewailing of virginity” simply means preparing to be a servant in the Temple.

After two months her father takes her to the Temple.  At the door of the Temple her head is shaved, and she puts a veil on her head.  She then works and lives there in the Temple.  She never leaves.

A Burnt Offering

The record in the book of Judges mentions that Jepthtah told God that he would offer the person as a burnt offering.  One meaning of burnt offering is to kill at the altar. The other meaning is to give oneself to serve in the Temple, which is what it means in the record we are considering.

It is referred to as a burnt offering because a young woman given to service in the Temple suffers.  She can never marry which in that culture was a disgrace and humiliating.  That is part of the shame that she suffers.

She also cannot have children.  That is also very humiliating to a woman in that culture.  Those who chose to give their lives in service to the Temple endured that shame.  Thus, it is referred to as being a burnt offering.

Lamented Her?

This record in Judges ends by saying that the daughters of Israel went yearly to lament the daughter of Jephthah.  This is a pretty poor translation.  Because of the word “lament” and a misunderstanding of the two types of burnt offerings, some have erroneously concluded that this means that Jephthah’s daughter was sacrificed, that she was brought to the Temple and killed.

The word “lament” does indicate that someone has died.  But the Hebrew word that is translated “lament” would be much more accurately translated “talk with,” not “lament.”  It means to talk with, to rehearse a matter.  The root word in Hebrew means to attribute honor.

Her friends came to see her for four days every year.  They would certainly have praised her for all she was doing in keeping her father’s promise to God.  They would have praised her for agreeing to suffer the shame of not being married or having children.

In that culture the children were trained to follow what their father says.  Their father’s word was to them God’s word.  That is their culture.  That is why she told her father, Jephthah, that whatever you told God, then that is what I will do.

And so her friends would come and talk to her, and praise her and make her feel glad.  It must have been a very special time of the year for her.

I Cannot Go Back

The most striking and inspiring thing to me in this record is that Jephthah says that he could not go back on his word, on the promise he made to God.  How many times have we made a promise to God and have gone back on our word?  In that culture, what you said, you must do, at all costs.

Jephthah was a king with only one child.  Everyone would know that his daughter was not married.  He would endure the disgrace to the throne that would bring. People would say that his throne was cursed because his only daughter was not married.

He did not go to God and ask for a compromise.  He did not try to explain to God that she was his only daughter and what all the ramifications would be not only to her, but to his throne.  There are a lot of things he could have said to God, but instead, he kept his word.  “I cannot go back!”

Are We Salted?

Perhaps we can begin fresh today and resolve that what we say unto God, we will keep our word.  We may need to stop and think before we speak, and when we do speak, we ought to remember that we are talking to the Almighty.

And perhaps we could even carry it over to those we come in contact with.  We can resolve to say what we mean and mean what we say.  Biblically, that means that your words are salted.

The Apostle Paul wrote in Colossians, that our speech should be seasoned with salt.  In other words, say what you mean and mean what you say.

Again, with a little understanding of the times and culture in which the scriptures were written, the Bible becomes clear, and its richness shines brightly.

Judges 11:30 – 40:
And Jephthah vowed a vow unto the LORD, and said, If thou shalt without fail deliver the children of Ammon into mine hands,

Then it shall be, that whatsoever cometh forth of the doors of my house to meet me, when I return in peace from the children of Ammon, shall surely be the LORD’S, and I will offer it up for a burnt offering.

So Jephthah passed over unto the children of Ammon to fight against them; and the LORD delivered them into his hands.

And he smote them from Aroer, even till thou come to Minnith, even twenty cities, and unto the plain of the vineyards, with a very great slaughter. Thus the children of Ammon were subdued before the children of Israel.

And Jephthah came to Mizpeh unto his house, and, behold, his daughter came out to meet him with timbrels and with dances: and she was his only child; beside her he had neither son nor daughter.

And it came to pass, when he saw her, that he rent his clothes, and said, Alas, my daughter! thou hast brought me very low, and thou art one of them that trouble me: for I have opened my mouth unto the LORD, and I cannot go back.

And she said unto him, My father, if thou hast opened thy mouth unto the LORD, do to me according to that which hath proceeded out of thy mouth; forasmuch as the LORD hath taken vengeance for thee of thine enemies, even of the children of Ammon.

And she said unto her father, Let this thing be done for me: let me alone two months, that I may go up and down upon the mountains, and bewail my virginity, I and my fellows.

And he said, Go. And he sent her away for two months: and she went with her companions, and bewailed her virginity upon the mountains.

And it came to pass at the end of two months, that she returned unto her father, who did with her according to his vow which he had vowed: and she knew no man. And it was a custom in Israel,

That the daughters of Israel went yearly to lament the daughter of Jephthah the Gileadite four days in a year.

Colossians 4:6
Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer every man.

Mike Verdicchio

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There are a number of books that you can read to get insight on customs, manners, idioms and meanings from the Eastern culture in which the Bible was written.  The best I know of were written by Bishop K. C. Pillai.  I have had the pleasure of listening to many recorded teaching by him.

He wrote three books, and they are hard to find, and are usually over priced.  But, if you want to you can check this link to see what Amazon has to offer. Light Through an Eastern Window

Another great resource that I have used for years is a book called, “Manners and Customs of the Bible,” by James Freeman. Mine was printed in 1972 and I know they have newer additions. For the newest edition, just click the link and it will take you to Amazon. The New Manners and Customs of the Bible (Pure Gold Classics)

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Chere September 27, 2010 at 10:08 am


Great information! I did not know that “lament” here meant “to talk with” but how much more sense this passage makes now that I do! It always seemed a very negative record to me before.

Thank you for shedding light on this subject.

God bless you.

Mike Verdicchio September 27, 2010 at 9:28 pm

Chere, this is a great lesson in saying what you mean and mean what you say – maybe that’s why the Bible says to be swift to hear and slow to speak!

Camella March 22, 2011 at 8:23 pm

Thanks for the information it was wonderful, when I study from now on if I come across something I don’t understand I’ll surely stop by. It’s great to have culture understanding, for that dispensation.

Mike Verdicchio March 23, 2011 at 7:53 am

You are very welcome, Camella. Understanding some of the culture really does help to unlock the Scriptures. Thanks for stopping by.

Brenda July 28, 2011 at 11:49 am

I had occasion today to visit your website and what I found has blessed me. The Bible text was explained clearly and concise with explanations as to the time and context it was written. Thank you very much.

Mike Verdicchio July 29, 2011 at 9:20 pm

Brenda, glad you found this blog and glad what you read blessed you! Come back any time!

Adeola October 30, 2011 at 11:32 pm

This is a great exposition and piece. You’ve done a good word on this. I really appreciate this. May God continue to grant you grace and wisdom in the revelation of His words. Amen.

Mike Verdicchio October 31, 2011 at 6:24 am

Adeola, thanks for the kind words – God bless you.

D.S Onoja May 15, 2012 at 1:15 pm

Knowledge is power and wisdom is profitable to direct. when i got to the chapter i was marveled and scared thinking that Jephthah actually killed his one and only virgin daughter. thank for this light you have shared. more grace in Jesus name.

Mike Verdicchio May 26, 2012 at 3:02 pm

DS, I am glad it made sense and gave you a little better understanding.

sharon July 28, 2012 at 2:57 am

Thanks a lot for this great article!I would have misunderstood the whole scripture if I had not understood its real meaning through this article.God Bless!

Mike Verdicchio July 31, 2012 at 5:36 pm

Sharon, glad you learned something from the podcast – isn’t it great how a little understanding of the culture and times can open up the Scriptures? God bless you.

Gabriel September 3, 2012 at 11:37 pm

Was really blessed after reading this well brokendown explanation. Ĩ̷̊ actually thought Jephthah killed His only Daughter. Our GOD is a good GOD. I pray HE continues †̥̥Ơ̴̴͡ give us more understanding of HIS words. AMEN

Mike Verdicchio September 7, 2012 at 8:24 pm

Gabriel, so glad this article gave you more understanding and that it blessed you!

Magrimo R A September 8, 2012 at 9:38 pm

Thanks for this great revelation and down to earth explanation, I have always thought that he sacrificed her daughter, more of these, bcos the bible says “my people perish due to lack of wisdom”

Mike Verdicchio September 9, 2012 at 8:20 am

Magrimo, I am glad you enjoyed this article. God bless you.

Neville Blackwood January 19, 2013 at 10:37 pm

Thank you for the explanation on the “bewail my virginity”. I believed he did not killed her but i did not know what actually happened to her God’s Blessings to you.

Mike Verdicchio January 22, 2013 at 8:55 pm

Neville, you’re very welcome; I’m glad it added some understanding. God bless you.

Fredrick April 13, 2013 at 5:40 am

Thanks a lot for the explanation you offered.It added light to my understanding.God bless you.

Mike Verdicchio April 14, 2013 at 11:08 am

You’re welcome, Frederick, has a blessed week.

Ramael July 7, 2013 at 4:14 pm

Thank you so much my fellow Christian for having described that part of Judges because I obviously did a misinterpretation. May God bless you.

Mike Verdicchio July 14, 2013 at 3:05 pm

You are very welcome, Ramael.
God bless you, too!

john chiripanyanga August 17, 2013 at 5:36 pm

would you please send me this enriching material

Mike Verdicchio September 17, 2013 at 8:08 pm
Job Sterling December 15, 2013 at 9:48 pm

I was doing a Bible quiz and stumbled upon the verse. Your discourse has brought great wisdom and enlightenment to me. Continue to do the good work that God has called you to do. And may he richly bless you and your family.

Mike Verdicchio December 16, 2013 at 6:56 am

Job, thank you for the kind comments; glad the article gave you some added understanding.
God bless you.

Bob Baker February 16, 2014 at 8:45 pm

I have been very irritated over this story and thought it either was not factual or that Jepthtah was like so many other Israelites of his time, mixing pagan practices with Hebrew Law and suffered the consequences of mixed religion because it was definitely against Levitical Law to kill his daughter. Jehovah has shown me many answers about the “discrepancies” I have encountered in the Bible. Studying the customs and beliefs of the people in ancient and eastern cultures of that area and time has made the Bible make sense. The separation resulting from the separation of Christianity from it’s roots by the Constantine and Roman church has left us with a shallow faith and fairy tale beliefs based on erroneous facts.

Thanks for your article.

Mike Verdicchio February 18, 2014 at 11:00 am

Bob, you are right.
Having an understanding of the customs, culture, and idioms of Bible times really helps to open up the Scriptures.
That’s one of the reasons I have a category on the site called, The Eastern Eye.
God bless you,

Adigwe Emmanuel April 20, 2014 at 5:22 pm

I jst finished reading this Chapter of Judges in my Bible and i logged onto the internet to look up for the meaning of “BEWAIL HER VIRGINITY” as used in the scripture. When i saw the comprehensive explanaition you detailed, i was so satisfied. God Bless You Sir. Continue in the great work.

Adigwe Emmanuel April 20, 2014 at 5:24 pm

I jst finished reading this Chapter of Judges in my Bible and i logged onto the internet to look up for the meaning of “BEWAIL HER VIRGINITY” as used in the scripture. When i saw the comprehensive explanaition you detailed, i was so satisfied. God Bless You Sir. Continue in the great work…

Michael A Verdicchio April 26, 2014 at 6:28 pm

Glad you found the post and it helped your understanding.
God bless you.

Adam December 16, 2014 at 5:43 pm

First of all thank you for this information. Second of all, what are your sources for this analysis? I happen to have briefly studied Hebrew transliteration in college and I think, at least for the definition of bewail, you may be mistaken, as well as for several others of these explanations, particularly at the time of the transliteration to the King James Version done in 1604. At that time, may of the meanings for these words which were chosen with incredible precision are in fact the same meanings for the words we use today, such as bewail meaning to regret or lament, with sadness. Is there evidence that it in fact meant praying and saying goodbyes, without the actual meaning of bewail being involved as we understood it in 1604? Thanks!

Michael Verdicchio February 4, 2015 at 7:46 pm

Thanks for your comment.
Yes, the word “bewail” of course carries the same meaning today – to weep or have grief.
However, according to Bishop KC Pillai, who was an expert on Eastern customs and idioms, the phrase, “Bewailing virginity” was the two months a young girl would take off to go with her girlfriends to the mountains and pray, say her good-byes. It was all part of preparation to minister in the temple.
God bless you,

Rj Cristy March 14, 2015 at 1:46 pm

I didn’t know that burnt offering means “give oneself to serve in the Temple” and not burnt offering. Such a very informative article. Thanks!

Michael Verdicchio March 30, 2015 at 6:01 am

Thanks for the comment, Rj.
There are so many insights in the Bible from understanding some things about the culture at that time.
I hope you enjoy more “Eastern Eye” articles.
God bless you,

Emeka Umeano April 9, 2015 at 4:04 pm

Thanks for the enlightenment, for i am always perplexed to read that Jephta sacrifice her daughter, i read that Abraham intended to do so, God forbade him, how could same God now allow Jephta to do sametthing he forbade Abraham from doing, thanks a lot for the light.

Michael Verdicchio April 10, 2015 at 5:57 am

Thanks for leaving a comment, Emeka.
Glad it added some light.
God bless you,

Ernest May 1, 2015 at 8:58 am

Thanks for throwing a light on that scripture.
God bless you .

Michael Verdicchio May 9, 2015 at 4:09 pm

Ernest, thanks for the kind comment.
God bless you!

DIKE S. A. OLUGHU June 12, 2015 at 12:42 am

Just gained greater insight into the text and the place of good understanding of the Eastern culture in having effective understanding of the Bible. God bless you real good Sir.

Michael Verdicchio June 13, 2015 at 5:24 pm

Dike S. – thanks for the comment; glad you gained greater insight. God bless you.

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